Zaman zaman can\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 s\u0131kan olaylar meydana gelebilir. \u0130\u00e7i \u00f6yle bir s\u0131k\u0131l\u0131r ki hi\u00e7bir \u015fey yapas\u0131 gelmez insan\u0131n. “Can\u0131m \u00e7ok s\u0131kk\u0131n.” G\u00fcnl\u00fck hayatta s\u0131kl\u0131kla kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z bir c\u00fcmle bu. Peki ya bunun sebebi nedir? Asl\u0131nda bunun alt\u0131nda yatan temel sebepler aras\u0131nda hayat\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n gidi\u015fat\u0131n\u0131n bizi memnun etmedi\u011fi, insanlar\u0131n bizi art\u0131k e\u011flendirmedi\u011fi gibi sebepler yatar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u0130nsanlar do\u011fas\u0131 gere\u011fi kolaya ka\u00e7may\u0131 sever. Zorluklar g\u00f6zlerimizi korkutur ve ka\u00e7ar\u0131z. Kendi kabu\u011fumuza s\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131r\u0131z. Ah bir de zorluklar\u0131n \u00fczerine gitmeyi denesek, belki de o zaman her \u015fey bamba\u015fka olacak. Her insanda zorluklar\u0131 ta\u015f\u0131yabilecek g\u00fc\u00e7 vard\u0131r. Buna inan\u0131yorum. Kendin i\u00e7in iyi bir \u015fey yap ve hayat\u0131nda yolunda gitmeyen her ne varsa d\u00fczeltmek i\u00e7in \u00e7aba sarf et. Bu tabi ki kolay olmayacak. Her \u015feyden \u00f6nce zaman alacak\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n
“Hi\u00e7bir \u015fey yolunda gitmiyor.” Bu c\u00fcmle \u00e7ok tan\u0131d\u0131k geldi de\u011fil mi? Hi\u00e7bir \u015feyin yolunda gitmemesi, insan\u0131n kendini hayatta hi\u00e7bir amac\u0131 olmayan bo\u015f bir varl\u0131k gibi hissetmesine neden olur. Ne elle tutulur bir ba\u015far\u0131n\u0131z ne de sizi heyecanland\u0131racak biri vard\u0131r hayat\u0131n\u0131zda. Siz \u00e7abalad\u0131k\u00e7a her \u015fey elinize y\u00fcz\u00fcn\u00fczde bula\u015f\u0131r, bir t\u00fcrl\u00fc do\u011frulamazs\u0131n\u0131z. Bir s\u00fcre sonra \u00f6ylesine ya\u015famaya ba\u015flars\u0131n\u0131z hayat\u0131. Herhangi bir beklentiniz olmadan, ama\u00e7s\u0131z, \u00f6ylesine i\u015fte\u2026 Ve bu karamsar d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerle i\u00e7ten i\u00e7e kendinizi bo\u011fars\u0131n\u0131z fark\u0131nda olmadan. Asl\u0131nda yolunda gitmeyen bir \u015fey varsa sorumlusu kendimiziz fakat bu sorumluluktan bile ka\u00e7\u0131p sebebi ba\u015fka bir \u015feye y\u00fckl\u00fcyoruz. Bizden tamam\u0131yla ayr\u0131 olan, alakas\u0131z olan\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ben hi\u00e7bir \u015feyin yolunda gitmemesini insan\u0131n kendisinden vazge\u00e7mesine ba\u011fl\u0131yorum. Kendisine inanmaktan vazge\u00e7mesine. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc kendine inanan, kendini b\u0131rakmayan insanlar\u0131n i\u015fleri er ya da ge\u00e7 yolunda gidiyor. O y\u00fczden ya direnin ya da o direnci yeniden kazanmak i\u00e7in yollar aray\u0131n. Kendinizi b\u0131rakt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z noktay\u0131 bulun. O noktay\u0131 buldu\u011funuzda hayat\u0131n\u0131z \u00e7ok daha farkl\u0131 olacakt\u0131r ataca\u011f\u0131n\u0131z bir ad\u0131mla. Tek yapman\u0131z gereken pes etmemek. Acele etmeyin bunu yaparken. B\u0131rak\u0131n zaman yava\u015f yava\u015f yaralar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n \u00fcst\u00fcn\u00fc \u00f6rts\u00fcn. Biraz sabredin, dayan\u0131n, \u015f\u00fckredin ve mutlu olmak i\u00e7in elinizden geleni yap\u0131n. G\u00fczel \u015feyler birden ger\u00e7ekle\u015fmez zaman ister. Ve tabii ki k\u00f6t\u00fc \u015feyler de \u00f6yle.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Fark\u0131nda m\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z, hep kocaman \u015feylerin olmas\u0131n\u0131 bekliyor ve hayal ediyoruz. Her \u015feyin bir anda d\u00fczelmesini\u2026 G\u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fcz o kadar y\u00fckseklerde ki hep b\u00fcy\u00fck ba\u015far\u0131lar, b\u00fcy\u00fck g\u00fczellikler, b\u00fcy\u00fck \u015fanslar bekliyoruz. G\u00fczel bir an\u0131, b\u00fcy\u00fck d\u00fc\u015flere heba ediyoruz fark\u0131nda olmadan. Ve s\u00fcrekli yar\u0131n\u0131 planlamaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rken bug\u00fcn\u00fc heba ediyor ve ya\u015fayam\u0131yoruz. K\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck ve g\u00fczel \u015feylerin fark\u0131na var\u0131n, baharatland\u0131r\u0131n, tatland\u0131r\u0131n, g\u00f6r\u00fcn, sevin. Hayat\u0131n\u0131zdaki ufak ayr\u0131nt\u0131lar g\u00f6r\u00fclmeyi bekliyor, ancak \u00e7o\u011fumuzun g\u00f6zleri \u00f6n\u00fcm\u00fcze de\u011fil yukar\u0131lara bak\u0131yor. Hayat\u0131n anlardan ibaret oldu\u011funu \u00e7ok ge\u00e7 olmadan fark\u0131na var\u0131n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Kendi omzuma yaslan\u0131yor, kendi kendime \u00e7\u0131kar yol \u00fcretiyorum. Kendimi seviyorum. Kendimi ba\u015fkalar\u0131yla minimum k\u0131yaslamaya tutuyorum. Zaman\u0131m\u0131 verimli de\u011ferlendirmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yorum. Yeniden yeniden yeniden bir \u015feyler \u00f6\u011frenmek istiyorum.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Problem her neyse \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fc de muhakkak vard\u0131r. Zaman ak\u0131p giderken yerinde saymak yerine \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131n, \u00e7abalay\u0131n, \u00e7aba sarf edin.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Zaman zaman can\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 s\u0131kan olaylar meydana gelebilir. \u0130\u00e7i \u00f6yle bir s\u0131k\u0131l\u0131r ki hi\u00e7bir \u015fey yapas\u0131 gelmez insan\u0131n. “Can\u0131m \u00e7ok s\u0131kk\u0131n.” G\u00fcnl\u00fck hayatta s\u0131kl\u0131kla kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z bir c\u00fcmle … <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":193,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[9],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-191","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-kendi-kalemimden"],"aioseo_notices":[],"views":51,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/sosyologmerve.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/191","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/sosyologmerve.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/sosyologmerve.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sosyologmerve.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sosyologmerve.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=191"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/sosyologmerve.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/191\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":194,"href":"https:\/\/sosyologmerve.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/191\/revisions\/194"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sosyologmerve.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/193"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/sosyologmerve.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=191"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sosyologmerve.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=191"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sosyologmerve.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=191"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}